Rape

Chatroom: Sexual Assault and #RapedbyMorehouse

Michael: Ok, Cara — earlier today women at Spelman College held a protest over the egregious lack of accountability in instances of sexual assault with their brother institution of Morehouse College. You and I were talking about this a bit earlier. What about all of this really hit home for you?

Cara: My immediate thought is that this is happening all over the country. Almost every college seems to have a problem with rape and way too many fail to address it. Victims get punished or expelled and rapists never get charged. It’s pretty sad that I find myself feeling “lucky” to have made it through college without being a victim of sexual assault.

Michael: Right — the statistics on campus rape and assault are insane. And unfortunately (outrageously) many campuses are failing to do anything real or meaningful about it. Ironically, Vice President Joe Biden was at Morehouse campus not long ago decrying campus assault and yet, according to many victims, neither Morehouse nor Spelman has taken the appropriate steps needed to curb campus rape. Black women bear the brunt of not only being black in a society that devalues blackness but also being women in a society that devalues women. The African-American community is not immune to sexism and gendered violence — hearing the stories of rape and assault of black women just leaves me particularly deflated.   (more…)

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More Thoughts on Bill Cosby…

Newly released court documents reveal that in 2005 Bill Cosby admitted to having sex with Andrea Constand after drugging her. In light of this new information, a reader reached out for my thoughts on what this meant for Bill Cosby and his legacy.

“…The Cosby Show has been taken off of the Bounce Network and TV Land. A professorship named after him at Spelman was suspended. Cosby resigned from the Board of Trustees at Temple. There is even a movement to remove his star from the Hollywood Walk of Fame. Do you think his actions, which in some people’s opinions range from just disgusting to rape, erase the good work he has done? Is it possible to separate the two?…”

Some thoughts;

First, in a literal sense, of course this doesn’t ‘erase’ the good work he’s done (whatever that may be) – but his good work is irrelevant to this situation. Bill Cosby is a serial rapist. And despite public acts of charity – we have to remember that this same man repeatedly chose to drug and rape women. With that in mind, the ‘backlash’ is warranted; he should be held accountable for his actions.

And don’t forget – Bill Cosby didn’t want you to separate the public from the private.  His brand revolved around convincing you that the person you saw on camera was the same exact person he was when no one else was watching. America bought it and Bill Cosby was given a pulpit like few other African-Americans have ever enjoyed in this country. And with that pulpit, he decided to criticize and shame poor black people, peddling the idea that black poverty and oppression was the result largely of black depravity. Now, as his own transgressions have finally come to light, it’s only fitting that we hold him to the same standards by which tried to hold others.

At the same time, as I stressed in a previous post, Bill Cosby is merely the headliner. He is a serial rapist in a country full of serial rapists. If the only outcome from all of this is that we scrub Cosby’s image from the public spotlight – we’ll have only gotten it half-correct. We’ll have completely missed out on a chance to look at ourselves and ask why so many women could come forward with allegations of rape and be entirely ignored. Why an estimated 300,000 women a year are victims of rape in this country. Why 80 percent of female college students who have been raped or sexually assaulted do not report it to authorities.

If this latter-half of the conversation doesn’t materialize, if we don’t challenge this toxic culture of rape and assault on Facebook walls and twitter feeds, at dinner tables, and in public spaces – we’ll only see more Bill Cosby’s. That would be a tragedy.

Bill Cosby and the Rest of Us

I’ve been relatively MIA on the whole Bill Cosby rape allegations issue. Mostly because, as heartbreaking as it is to hear the dozens of stories of abuse and manipulation pour out,  I’m not surprised. The insurgent pockets of doubt or victim blaming come as no surprise me either.

When I wrote about Ray Rice over the summer, I made it clear that Rice was never really the issue, domestic violence was. The same goes here. Bill Cosby is a serial rapist in a country that has many serial rapists. He may be today’s poster child, but he is not alone. Wyatt Cenac talked about this a little in a stand-up set a few weeks ago: (more…)